Recently someone asked me "Why do you feel it necessary to ...?" What I "did" was not illegal or unethical. After I thought about it for a while, it occurred to me, the question back to that person should have been "why does it bother you that I ..." ?
As my children approach adulthood, I need to remember this advice and apply it to myself when they inevitably do something with which I disagree. If I disagree with something they do, I can express my disappointment and/or my concern. Ultimately, the choice is still theirs to make.
